Bhaktivinoda Thakura explains that if we do not regulate our tendency to speak, then we will create enmity among one another through gossip. Usually when we speak about others, we do so only to point out their faults. Sometimes people who do not control their speaking urge regret what they have said. Not only have their words disturbed others, they have disturbed their own mind. The original speaker may question himself, “Why did I speak like that? Maybe I shouldn’t have said what I said.” Although this thought process may go on in the minds of many individuals, gossip continues. Why? Because we are pushed by the urge to speak unnecessarily. But Bhaktivinoda Thakura advises that if we do feel the urge to speak, but we have nothing of value to say, we should keep quiet. This is the standard of behavior devotees should maintain in one another’s association. When devotees gather, it is better (and a higher standard) to say nothing at all if all that can be said is gossip.
(Bhaktyaloka, Moscow)