It is also the responsibility of the person who is supposed to be in the superior position to be an example, to be caring, to not be interested in respect, to not demand respect, and to not use his position for controlling others. Rather, he should have a relationship with that person exclusively for the purpose of helping him. The most important aspect is to help somebody without an expectation of getting something in return. If one cannot do that, then he is not qualified for taking care of others. One must be trustworthy, and the dependent should see that such a devotee has no other agenda in their relationship, other than wanting to help him in his spiritual life.
Lectures From a Disciple, Counselor System, Pg 399, 3rd Paragraph