When we approach the spiritual master, we must be careful not to do so with an agenda. We should not be seeking a particular answer, and therefore ask our question in such a way as to bring out of the guru what we want him to say. The spiritual master actually knows what we need to hear, and often he will not tell us what we want to hear. So better we approach the spiritual master with submission, with the readiness to accept his answer to our dilemma as suitable for us.