Householder life is not to be taken whimsically. It is a big responsibility, and oftentimes the attraction or "glitter" to the idea of living in the association of the opposite sex eclipses the real responsibilities which are inherent to householder life. It is a commitment to take responsibility not only for your own spiritual life, but for the lives of those who are dependent, both materially and spiritually, upon you for at least the next 25-30 years. To be a spiritual guide is not easy when the weight of domestic obligations come down upon one. Therefore, being prepared for householder life means that one must be prepared to carry the burden of both material and spiritual responsibilities.
(Collected Letters to My Disciples, Pg 131 , 2nd Paragraph)