A kanistha adhikari doesn't know how to associate with his peers. A madhyama adhikari knows how to associate, because he knows how to appreciate the qualities of others. Therefore, the external devotee will think, "I don't want to associate.'' But the internal devotee will look within his heart; will chant Hare Krishna very, very attentively; and will pray to Krishna to please reveal these anarthas and to help him overcome these anarthas that obstruct him in his relationships with these devotees so he can see their good qualities and experience shelter, and love.
Taking Care of Devotees, Pg 79, Last Paragraph