Niranjana Swami's Quote Of The Day

What is this connection between the spiritual master and the disciple?  It is generally understood that the primary connection is on the basis of siksa—or instruction; but which instructions should a disciple be dependent upon?  Permanent instructions.  If we want to make a permanent connection, we must be dependent upon those instructions which will not change.  If we become dependent upon some temporary instructions as the only means of our connection, then what will happen when the situation changes?  Where is the connection?  Sometimes disciples are waiting for that order—"Where is that instruction?  Where is that order?  Give me something to do"—as if THAT, in itself, would be the only requirement for making the eternal bond between the disciple and the spiritual master.  Certainly, a disciple should be eager for service; and such instructions are also given.  However, we should understand that the most relevant instructions are those, which will carry us through our journey in the material world, all the way back home, back to Godhead. 
MKV, Vol 2- Pg 3, (Initiation Lecture—Kiev, Ukraine—15/11/01)

The natural behavior of a Vaisnava is to always look for good qualities.  We should set aside whatever faults there may be and look for what other devotees are sincerely doing. Sometimes it may be very difficult to find something favorable, and we might conclude, “Oh, this person is not a devotee.”  We may think so many other thoughts.  If our consciousness is absorbed in that way, we should seek out the association of the devotees in whom we can see good qualities. Srila Rupa Gosvami explains in Nectar of Instruction that we should mentally honor a neophyte devotee, and it may be necessary to do it from a distance so that we will not always be absorbed in looking for some fault.  Therefore, we should keep ourselves in the association of those devotees who have good qualities that we can see and appreciate.
(Caitanya Caritamrita Lectures Book, Adi Lila: 8.62 Kiev—May2, 2000, Pg 102)

The mentality of Vaisnavas is to always accept the good—not be like the fly that always goes only to the sore. Have you ever tried to keep flies away from nasty places? You cannot keep them away. You may have a sore or cut, and a fly comes directly to it, and keeps coming back even though you try to swat it away.  This is the same thing as the “fault-finding mentality.”  You might try to do something to divert a person’s consciousness from looking for fault, but the faultfinder cannot control himself.  
(Caitanya Caritamrita Lectures Book, Adi Lila: 8.62 Kiev—May2, 2000, Pg 101)

Although there is generally no criticism in a society of Vaisnavas who possess this mentality, there may sometimes be criticism out of love on the transcendental and spontaneous platform.  Lord Caitanya sometimes spoke critically of devotees, but it was an expression of His love for them.  For example, during the time when Lord Caitanya was leaving to go to South India; and He gave different reasons why no one should accompany Him by pointing out faults in their past behavior. Krsnadasa Kaviraja Gosvami explains that by doing so, Lord Caitanya was actually showing the exceptional qualities of these devotees and the particular type of intimate relationship that each of them had with Him.  Moreover, He was pointing out how their love for Him is so strong that when they appeared to transgress social etiquette, the Lord was lovingly accepting their transgressions.  The Lord was actually glorifying His devotees by speaking about them as though they had faults.
(Caitanya Caritamrita Lectures Book, Adi Lila: 8.62 Kiev—May2, 2000, Pg 96)